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Take German expat Lena*, a leggy blonde: she noticed that since moving to Zurich, she has not been hit on much in bars.
“I mainly get approached by Spanish guys,” she admits, adding that she thinks Swiss men must be too arrogant or too scared to speak to women.
But as Swiss Marc* reveals, “we behave the way we do because of the numerous rejections we have received from Swiss women.” Tijmens’ top tip?
Women should make themselves more approachable by, for example, smiling and saying ‘hello’. It doesn’t pay off to label yourself an ‘expat’ Think being an expat will make you sound exotic? There are around two million expats in Switzerland from all over the world, but the Swiss are on their home turf: they have friendships they established as children, making it hard for foreigners to build relationships with them.
Soon after he started dating a Swiss, Frenchman Martin* realized he was expected to keep his distance.
“She would suggest meeting up only every two weeks, even though we didn’t live far from each other,” he says.
There’s no specific etiquette on this in Switzerland, says Tijmens.“This gives the man the green light to speak to you. Exacerbating the problem is the temporal nature of expats.Swiss people may not be keen on making an effort when they know you are likely to move on in the near future, explains Tijmens.Speaking to The Local, Trea Tijmens, owner of dating, matchmaking and date coaching service Success Match, says it takes effort to meet the Swiss – and even longer to engage in a trusting relationship.“If love doesn’t happen instantly, we are disappointed and are out of there,” the dating expert says, emphasizing that investing time pays dividends.